So this is a comment I wrote in response to a blog post on www.singlemomseeking.com (Rachel Sarah's blog--if you haven't read her book Single Mom Seeking you absolutely should!). The blog is titled "If you're dating again, some hope", and (not to toot my own horn) I liked my comment so here it is:
I've been single for almost a year now and a mom for 5 1/2 months... I started reading your book last night (and got half way through it before I realized I had to be up in five hours...) and I have to say it is making me feel a lot better about my situation.
Like you, I have always had a tendency of rushing into both intimacy and relationships. When I meet a guy I like I fall hard and fast.
I am terrified of making this mistake (I also tend to fall hard and fast for all the wrong men) and having it impact my son's life in a negative way. I have made a list on many occasions of traits a man "must" have for me to be with him, but it always seems to fall to the wayside when I meet Mr. Wrong.
I've been on a total of two dates since I had my son and I have to say I've been getting very discouraged with men. It also doesn't help that I moved for a new job two and a half hours away from my safety net, so on those days and nights where I get lonely I can't just head over to a girlfriend's house and watch chick flicks and eat bad movies. So I clean. Cleaning is my cure for dating frustration.
I hope to eventually find that someone special, and I really truly believe I will (I have to believe...), but until then I have my son, and my vacuum.